You're needing more spark & adventure

...Spontaneous nights away, flirty text messages, sex by the fire...maybe it's all of the above or maybe you just want to feel more cherished & chosen in general. 

You want to feel alive again in your marriage.

Maybe the two of you used to live a life of freedom, and that's why it feels like such a loss-

or maybe you've never fully had this need met with your partner...

either way, you've taken this most important first step of getting clear on what you want.

Think back- How did you react the last time you felt let down about the lack of adventure?

If these needs have been unmet for a while, it's likely you've built some coping mechanisms that are keeping you stuck in a cycle of disconnection.

For example, maybe you approach your partner about a weekend away together, or spicing things up in the bedroom, and you're met with judgement or all the reasons why it's bad timing...

and you're met with defensiveness or they withdraw & shut down...

Now you're feeling unseen & even more unsupported so you react by pressing him further OR shutting down yourself-

Which in turn triggers him, which triggers you...and on and on the cycle goes.

When this happens you're on autopilot

It's like all of a sudden you're in conflict again and you don't know how you got there, until it's too late. So how are you supposed to fix something you don't even recognise is happening?

Or...

Maybe you've given up on getting this need met at all.

With the right tools, support and guidance, you can go from 'maybe we're just too incompatible' to confidently course correcting out of the cycle & confidently communicating your needs with your partner.

Heirloom Marriage Society is for you if...