You're needing more affection and/or physical intimacy

...Hugs for no reason, backrubs on the couch, more 'I love yous', thoughtful courtesies, genuine help with problems, better sex... 

You're craving more/different physical touch or affectionate gestures from your partner. 

Maybe they used to give you more of it which is why it hurts now that they don't-

or maybe you've never fully had this need met with your partner...

either way, you've taken this most important first step of getting clear on what you want.

Think back- How did you react the last time you felt let down about affection/intimacy?

If these needs have been unmet for a while, it's likely you've built some coping mechanisms that are keeping you stuck in a cycle of disconnection.

For example, you try & open up a deeper level conversation with your partner or reach out to hold their hand on a walk-

but they don't reciprocate.

So maybe you try and broach the subject, to share that you'd like more affection-

and you're met with defensiveness or they withdraw & shut down...

Now you're feeling unseen & even more unsupported so you react by pressing him further OR shutting down yourself-

Which in turn triggers him, which triggers you...and on and on the cycle goes.

When this happens you're on autopilot

It's like all of a sudden you're in conflict again and you don't know how you got there, until it's too late. So how are you supposed to fix something you don't even recognise is happening?

Or...

Maybe you've given up on getting this need met at all.

With the right tools, support and guidance, you can go from 'maybe we're just too incompatible' to confidently course correcting out of the cycle & confidently communicating your needs with your partner.

Heirloom Marriage Society is for you if...